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Potty training……

I embarked on the great parenting adventure that is potty training  now that H is 22 months. It was all her she came back from nursery talking how her and her friends all did a poo in the potty. We have had potties in our house for 6 months. She sits on it every morning and just before bath time. She’s only done wees, so imagine my surprise 24th January hearing about her new adventure. So I then decided I might as well let her lead…

Started researching from the 25th January, I looked into classes, could not make the classes. So decided to research online, buy a book and talk to friends. They all told me similar things to do and not to. So I decided to put togther a tool kit for others.

Tool kit

  • Patience – Not one of my strong points, as H had been showing some signs of readiness and it seemed like the right time.
  • Equip yourself with a lot of spare pants, 2 home potty- upstairs, downstairs and travel potty.
  • Toddler-sized toilet seat adaptor – H loves hers.
  • Be consistent –  once you start there is no going back
  • I used incentives like chocolate buttons, fingers & iPad ( not for everyone, it worked for me)
  • Toddler pants featuring H favourite disney character
  • Toddler toilet wipes Preferably flushable ones, as this can be a messy old business…
  • A sticker chart next to the loo to motivate your toddler. When the chart’s full, H gets a lovely treat – so far she’s had baking session with mummy, a doll and a her face painted.

Hanna_Potty

I confess,  I almost gave up on the 3rd day. The 1st day was a breeze, second day we had 2 wee accidents while playing. The 3rd day almost broke me, it was one wee accident after another, poo was done in the loo. She got claps, a song and 2 chocolate buttons then it was down hill. I  Seriously started to question whether I had misjudged her readiness in a fit of blinkered mother love. 4th day one accident just before lunch. 5th day no accident, 6th and 7th day 2 small accidents. We have good and ok days. Am going to stick with it, it’s definitely been character building for me. A month on and we still have accidents, I use pull ups at night and for day outs.

I’m not sure what you will think of our adventure,  we’d probably get the feedback that I should have done more. We’re not 100% there yet, but I’m pretty pleased with the progress we’ve made.  Well done H.  Mummy is SO proud of you xxx

Questions every daughter should ask her mother

I borrowed some of these questions from Elma van Vliet, reading about her as I am sat here pregnant with my first child.  The reason I felt the need to put this down is I lost my mum 5.5 yrs ago and I miss everything about her. Tonight what I miss most is the random conversations we used to have late at night. I wish I asked her many questions about herself as 99% of the time we spoke about me. I truly regret that….

Ladies if you ever visit my blog please read this page and talk your mum. Ask her the questions below and write down the answers. Here are some of my answers, my plan is to sit down with my uncle AR and ask him the questions I haven’t got answers to and add them here.

  • What kind of parents did you have? Were they progressive or old-fashioned? Very progressive for their time.
  • What are the most precious memories you have of your mother or father? Many, my father (my Gran dad) – the eloquent way he told stories (charming), my mum (gran mum) – her generosity and loyalty.
  • Were you an easy-going or rebellious teenager? Very easy.
  • Have you ever had your heart-broken? How did you cope? Yes, was too busy to dwell on my sadness.
  • What kind of child was I when I was little? Helpful and kind.
  • What are your best bits of advice on raising children? Relax and go with it.
  • What have you taught me that you are most proud of? Independence and your curiosity.
  • What changed in you when you had children? Everything in my life came second.
  • How did this change affect your relationships? Some people thought I shouldn’t have given up everything for my children.
  • If you had the chance to change one thing about the way you were raised, what would it be? I would have stayed in school ( this wasn’t her choice, girls were not deemed as important as boys to educate).
  • What do you think everyone should have seen or done in their lifetime? Travel the world and experience life before you settle down and have children – Live first!
  • Do you have any regrets? Few
  • What would you have done differently?
  • Was my father the love of your life?

More than anything in this post I am trying to honor and celebrate my mum. It makes me realise that I really miss her, especially at this time.

As much as for myself, I am doing this so my daughter does not one day wonder…

I will try to put in paper my thoughts and journey so my child/children can have something they can retain as a keepsake.

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