Second Birthday

My darling girl,

It’s your second birthday today.

A milestone in so so many ways but also because it’s the only time when your age doubles overnight ( I got this from your Auntie N, she is clever)

I know you’ll have a wonderful day, and I know that you’ll have fun this lovely spring day and I look forward to our family breakfast in 2 hours when you, daddy and I share the first cake for the day and we will watch you open your presents. Taking you to a party that your daddy and I have planned for you. And yes, there will be another cake.

At 12.03am on April 10th 2011 when my waters broke. We had worried a lot (because it was 6 weeks to your due date) and really that was quite unnecessary.  Two somewhat clever people like your daddy and I worrying. But we did. One day you might know this yourself, as a parent you just seem to constantly worry. We got ourselves ready and went to the hospital, 4 days later you born via an emergency c-section. 5 weeks early, you were sooo small ( 4Ibs 11oz) , when I met you for the first time. I held you and didn’t want to let go. Every time I see you I feel the same way.

You are, as your name describes you, a beauty that can only be described by my stupid words. I will never be able to describe a small portion of exactly what you are. My darling H, you make dark clouds disappear and you make me the happiest woman that has ever set foot on earth. You are incredible, and I know you always will be. You have so much ahead of you, but I know that I will always do whatever I can to help you reach all heights, and never feel the lows. I can’t protect you from everything as you grow up, and God knows I’d love to, but even when I’m not with you I’ll always be holding out my hand, if ever you need it.

I wish you a very happy birthday. From the bottom of this heart of mine.

Yours, now and always proud and eternally loving,

Happy 2nd birthday my beautiful baby, I (we) love you so much:)

Mummy xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

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Potty training……

I embarked on the great parenting adventure that is potty training  now that H is 22 months. It was all her she came back from nursery talking how her and her friends all did a poo in the potty. We have had potties in our house for 6 months. She sits on it every morning and just before bath time. She’s only done wees, so imagine my surprise 24th January hearing about her new adventure. So I then decided I might as well let her lead…

Started researching from the 25th January, I looked into classes, could not make the classes. So decided to research online, buy a book and talk to friends. They all told me similar things to do and not to. So I decided to put togther a tool kit for others.

Tool kit

  • Patience – Not one of my strong points, as H had been showing some signs of readiness and it seemed like the right time.
  • Equip yourself with a lot of spare pants, 2 home potty- upstairs, downstairs and travel potty.
  • Toddler-sized toilet seat adaptor – H loves hers.
  • Be consistent –  once you start there is no going back
  • I used incentives like chocolate buttons, fingers & iPad ( not for everyone, it worked for me)
  • Toddler pants featuring H favourite disney character
  • Toddler toilet wipes Preferably flushable ones, as this can be a messy old business…
  • A sticker chart next to the loo to motivate your toddler. When the chart’s full, H gets a lovely treat – so far she’s had baking session with mummy, a doll and a her face painted.

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I confess,  I almost gave up on the 3rd day. The 1st day was a breeze, second day we had 2 wee accidents while playing. The 3rd day almost broke me, it was one wee accident after another, poo was done in the loo. She got claps, a song and 2 chocolate buttons then it was down hill. I  Seriously started to question whether I had misjudged her readiness in a fit of blinkered mother love. 4th day one accident just before lunch. 5th day no accident, 6th and 7th day 2 small accidents. We have good and ok days. Am going to stick with it, it’s definitely been character building for me. A month on and we still have accidents, I use pull ups at night and for day outs.

I’m not sure what you will think of our adventure,  we’d probably get the feedback that I should have done more. We’re not 100% there yet, but I’m pretty pleased with the progress we’ve made.  Well done H.  Mummy is SO proud of you xxx

The H List…little things for your baby to do before they’re Five

I will add to the list as H grows :-

  1. Blown bubbles
  2. Baked a cake
  3. Made a mud pie
  4.  Cleaned your own teeth
  5. Visited a museum
  6. Broken something valuable
  7. Finger painted
  8. Swim a length of the local pool
  9. Ridden on daddy’s shoulders
  10. Sing loudly in public – ABC song at 2yr (very proud)
  11. Climbed a big hill
  12. Picked fruit
  13. Made sandcastles on the beach
  14. Poo’ed in the bath
  15. Fed the ducks
  16. Lost her first tooth
  17. Had a friend sleepover
  18. Spend a night away from home
  19.  Ridden the tea-cups at the fair
  20. Jumped in a puddle so hard the water went in mummy’s shoe too
  21.  Been on a train ride
  22.  Ride a bike without stabilisers
  23.  Ride a push bike
  24. Master riding her scooter
  25.  Had a teddy bear’s picnic
  26.  Danced with no inhibition
  27. Been chased by a monster
  28. Chosen a favourite book
  29. Ridden on the top of double-decker bus
  30. Fed an animal
  31. Made up an inappropriate nickname for someone
  32. Worn pants on your head
  33. Flown a paper aeroplane
  34. Scribbled somewhere you shouldn’t
  35. Answered the phone
  36. Mastered a party piece
  37. Do a drama class
  38. Ballet Class
  39. Buy something in a shop
  40. Watch a ballet ( My First Cinderella)  
  41. Fully potty trained (dry night and day – 2yrs 10months)
  42. Learn her numbers 1-20, additions (2yrs, 2yrs 9 months )
  43. Learn A – Z ( 2yrs 6 months)
  44. Spell her name
  45. Have a princess party

Like I said – little things. But they’re the ones that matter most of all.

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My New Year Resolutions/Intentions

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“Good resolutions are simply checks that men draw on a bank where they have no account”. Oscar Wilde

I disagree, 2013 is upon us. I kept 80% of the resolutions I made last year and am working on the 20% ( I have included those in 2013 resolutions) but this year I am calling them intentions, as intentions are positive and hopeful

The new year is always a significant time when it comes to personal change, but this new year, just like the last, has extra significance.

I have been a mum for 2o months now, it’s been an amazing rollercoaster.  In 2013 I intend to:-

  • Spend more quality time with H and DH
  • Be more relaxed about things ( not plan too much – throw away some unnecessary lists and try to go with the flow)
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff
  • Spend quality time with my good friends without DH & H – ( Spending social time with people who know you and ‘get you’ is not only revitalizing but reminds you how great and loved you are) .
  • Train twice (or maybe even thrice!) a week for the Ealing Half Marathon
  • Turn up for the park run every other Sat ( 5K run)
  • Do the mother’s day parachute jump for NCT and raise lots of monies…
  • I want to enhance my part as  a “social influencer”  blogger – I have been writing and talking on facebook & twitter about Give as you live my charity of choice is  Great Ormond Street Children’s Hospital.
  • Write more on my blog and read/visit more blogs.
  • Make sure the house is a bit cleaner and tidier (hire a cleaner)
  • Go green – more cloths less kitchen roll
  • De-clutter – “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” William Morris

I read this quote somewhere, I intend to live it “Happiness is not a destination, it’s a way of life

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The Christmas TAG

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I saw this on a few blogs and thought I would give it a go…..You can find the original at Makeup-Pixi3

Q.   What’s your favourite thing about Christmas?
I don’t think I could pick one thing…It’s a collection of things which make up the great Christmas feeling…The tree, the drama of shopping, the food, the opening presents & days off work:)
Q.   What’s your favourite makeup look for the festive season?
A bit more sparkly than usual – glitter & gold!
Q.   Real tree or fake tree?
I would love a real one but don’t think I could cope with the mess, so it’s a fake one for us!
Q.   Giving presents or receiving presents?
Giving, I love the buying and wrapping the presents up then seeing the H & DH ‘s face when they open they presents:)
Q.  Do you open your presents Christmas morning or evening?
Morning, the joy of having a toddler. Do people actually wait till the evening to open presents?
Q.   Handmade Christmas cards or bought?
Brought, working mummy, no time:(
Q.   What’s your favourite Christmas film?
Hard to pick just one….It’s a choice between Elf & It’s a Wonderful Life.
Q. What’s your favourite Christmas song? (mine)
Just one , All I Want For Christmas Is You & Last Christmas
Q.   What’s your favourite Christmas food?
I have so many,  love Christmas dinner. We usually have it for a couple of days re-heated or in sarnie. I also love mince pies & Christmas Cake!!
I hope you have enjoyed this…..If you do this tag, please do link back:)
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The first time H fell ill….:(

“Ditch that ‘working mum guilt’ and wear your career girl badge with pride. 74 % of mums said they felt guilty about leaving their children while they worked, according to a poll of 600 mothers by Workingmums.co.uk”.

Yesterday I was one of the 26% but this afternoon when I got the email from Hanna’s nursery updating me that my daughter hadn’t eaten or drunk much all day and I had to come and pick her I was one of the 74%. 3 weeks since I started work and I feel like my world has been turned upside down. I feel like the worst mother in the world. My boss was kind and as I logged off i couldn’t not look anyone in the eye as I felt tears roll down my cheek.

Returning to work after months of maternity leave was a breeze the first two weeks. Hanna loved nursery and her lovely Nana P, I thought it was all meant to be. I went back to full time (4 days week) at the right time. She turned 18 months the week before I started after 6 months of working freelance around her I was going to part of a team with a proper lunch break and adult conversation. Today my world has come down with a bumped. The pain is unbearable, I feel soo guilty for leaving her at nursery and for leaving work at 3.15. I got to Nursery at 4pm she was flushed and had runny nose. She looked so fragile and run straight into my arms wimpering, broke my heart. I got her home, cleaned her, gave her water and cuddle her until she was ready to eat. I made her favourite foods and she only eat two bites then stopped. I just want her to eat, gave her a pot petti foli and that went down well. She eat it all and drunk the rest of her water. Then I heard this little voice asking for milk and smiling at me I was very relieved and happy. Mixed her 7oz of aptimul and got her ready for bed. Story time with milk and she is asleep as I type.

As I review the day with my DH, am thankful that my boss was so supportive, he made it so easy to deal with this stressful and hard day. Am torn, she is fast asleep and am praying that tomorrow we all feel better.

 

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Back to work….

I went back to work 2 weeks ago, after looking for a couple of months and meeting amazing people I have decided to accept this role. I love the work I will be doing and the idea of starting something new.
After accepting the role, I went back to my shortlisted nurseries and luckly we got a place in our 1st choice. I went to visit playways a year ago and put H down on the waiting list. The settling days and everything went smoothly
You might have already guessed that I am feeling guilty that I won’t be spending the day with her but although I feel guilty, I remind myself that we have our Fridays to ourselves (I have called it H and mummy day).
At the moment work is busy, meaning I get even less time to think about how much am missing H and the end of the day seems to come around quickly. I try and ensure I enjoy the evening with stories and lullabies to balance the day. Am enjoying being back at work, it’s made us more organised as a family. And, I feel more like myself again.  The intellectual challenge will mean that I sleep well!
Working mums face this kind of decision every day.  How do you get the right balance?  How flexible are your employees? How do you manage working and parenting?  Any tips?  Feel free to share them please.
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